How to Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids

According to experts, emotional intelligence (EQ) is as essential as intelligence quotient (IQ). Parents should make sure that they are bringing up kids who can understand, use & manage emotions in a positive way to get rid of stress and communicate effectively. So that these kids empathize with others, overcome challenges and build strong relationships in the future. Here are a few steps which can be advantageous in making kids emotionally intelligent:

Help them in understanding emotions:

The first step is to assist children to examine their emotions and name them; it means they should be aware of what they are feeling; is it frustration, joy, anger, excitement, fear, jealousy, disappointment, etc. This practice is called emotional awareness.

Don't ever repress their emotions:

Parents should never punish, dismiss or scold their children for being emotional because they will start repressing their feelings in the absence of acknowledgement. These kids (who suppressed emotions during childhood) can feel disconnected from their sentiments. As a result, they may not be able to build healthy relationships in the future.

Encourage them to express:

Instead of judging or criticizing their emotional expressions, caregivers can often talk about their feelings and encourage kids to share how different experiences made them feel. In this manner, children will feel comfortable revealing their emotions which will be helpful in understanding problems and finding solutions.

Teach them how to react:

Tell them that all emotions are acceptable but all behaviours are not. There is no need to repress emotions but they can control when and how to express them. For example: hitting someone is not an appropriate expression of anger. Once they understand it, they will stop overreacting to situations.

Save them from emotional abuse:

Make sure that your kids are not abused emotionally by family members, relatives, teachers, or coaches. A child is abused emotionally when he/she is criticized or belittled in front of others, made the subject of jokes or called by sarcastic names, pushed hard without recognizing their limitations, exposed to upsetting events or situations (like domestic violence), etc. Emotional abuse damages a child’s self-esteem and psychological well being.

The intelligence quotient (IQ) of your kids will help them to get higher grades in schools and colleges, but the emotional quotient (EQ) will aid them in managing stress and handling the ups and downs of life. Make sure that you are making equivalent efforts to augment the IQ as well as the EQ of your little ones.

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